The nude model dealing with judgmental family and peers

In the last article I addressed the common stereotypes and ignorant beliefs about nude models and nude art as a whole. The nude female form has been an art form admired for centuries. The unfortunate thing is that it’s somewhat common for nude models of all sorts to be faced with judgmental peers and family. Some people think of all nude art as being dirty, or porn. Not hardly. But any living breathing adult who really thinks that has no desire to be enlightened, but would rather bask in their own ignorance. The reason why Farrell gallery even exists is to separate this body of work from my wedding and portrait photography, which sometimes has a more conservative client base. I understand if people don’t wish to view nude work, I respect that enough to separate it for them, and make this body of work stand out better. Most people, even if nude photography isn’t their cup of tea, can appreciate the beauty in it. Fair enough, I respect that!

But I’ve known some nude models who have had some very hurtful things said to them, by people who are supposed to love them unconditionally….yes….close friends and family. This is why I recommend models go into this educated and having done research, so they do not regret their decision, and so they can stand strong and not cave into judgements from others. Some may mean well and think they’re saving a damsel in distress. In reality, if they’re trying to shame her, all they are doing is driving a wedge in their relationship. Others are mean spirited and like to bring negativity to others….and this is often the target. Because not everyone has the look or the courage to be a nude model. The models who are good at it love it and find it liberating, and are openly proud of their work.

I shot some lovely artistic style implied nudes for a new 19 year old model years ago, she was lovely and it took her a while to develop the confidence to do the shoot. I made sure she was ready. She kept saying even after the shoot how much she enjoyed it, and how I put her at ease, she did not even feel “naked” . A good nude art photographer does that. I never published any online or anywhere until she got more shoots under her belt. Well, soon after, her mom learned about her new interest and soon both her parents were threatening her to either stop, as it was shameful to them as Christians, or all financial support would stop. She was in college and still staying there over the Summers. They knew they had her cornered unless she did all but disown them. Really nice people huh? Fucking scum bags as far as I’m concerned. That’s just judgmental and manipulative behavior, and they used their own agenda, and God as a weapon against their own daughter, who was an adult and needs to make decisions for herself. Fuck, you’d think they caught her doing meth or being a sex slave to a satanic cult. I can’t blame her for stopping in this case, but you can bet the humiliation they tried to put her through and the manipulation, she won’t forget. I just think it’s sad. Fortunately, most who are able to support themselves aren’t backed into a corner like that. Once they do it long enough, they’re usually able to say “I love you even if you can’t accept my decision to pursue my passions, but you are the one letting it come between us, it’s you disappointing me. I’m here if you decide to continue loving me for who I am” It’s not forever this lasts, some things have to be done before it’s too late. The world would be a wonderful place with less ignorance and more acceptance of what doesn’t hurt them, or they aren’t familiar with. Many of us share your pain and appreciate you for who you are, be inspired and stay inspired. We’re in this together.

Artistic nude photography Nashville