The longer this blog is around, and the more readership it gets, the more I hope it will become known for my artist perspective, straightforward man’s perspective, and eclectic outlook. Hoping to also shed positive insight and entertainment for viewers. Today, I find it appropriate to talk about free will as pertaining to relationships. And also how trying to manipulate it can open up lots of potential problems in the future. I’ve been in situations too where all I can do is rely on freewill, and forcing the result would be fruitless. This is where relying on free will to reign supreme will prove the best result for the long term.
I’m not passing myself off as some relationship guru, but I am a decently marketable single man, with a lot of experience dating and building all kinds of relationships with people. I have taken time apart from relationships to be true to myself and what I really want. I love being in a healthy relationship…..but if it brings drama and negativity to my life, I quickly exit stage left. I don’t need to be that desperate to settle or a substandard relationship for the sake of not being alone. Some key mistakes both men and women alike make when either trying to enter relationships, or make while in relationships are:
1. Trying to use guilt, manipulation, or pity to create a relationship or save a dying one. Granted, no marriage or relationship will be perfect. It takes work and sacrifice, and growing together. Those are good things. But when there is jealousy, insecurity and control, then it becomes a bad thing. That only causes co dependency and settling for something mediocre and substandard, and really lots of wasted time. Having a weight around your neck really kills the quality of life, and quite frankly, I don’t get it.
2. Insecurity and jealousy. If you don’t trust someone, why be in a relationship with them? Anyone who feels the need to manipulate and control or check up on their partner, they clearly should have spent more time being in tune with their partner instead of being a jealous mess. In my opinion, this can’t be fixed….and who should want to, yuck. Trust and communication are the foundations in a relationship, despite the level of physical chemistry. I’m not suggesting burying your head in the sand, but perhaps someone in this situation has to grow up, and also pay more attention to their significant other…..if they did, they may have picked up on problems in their relationship that perhaps could have been fixed with some positive energy and attentiveness.
3. It boils down to interfering with free will. Blowing up someone’s phone to keep you on their mind, or push yourself on them may work for short term results that will likely blow up in your face. Same with putting someone else down or tooting your own horn to make yourself look better and make that person want you more. That should be a red flag. If you have to tell someone why they should be with you, it’s empty. And if you have to steer someone your way with desperate attempts, what would it really mean anyhow, assuming it worked? People aren’t puppets. I’m not suggesting every approach in life has to be passive but it’s better to prove by your actions, that is remembered far longer than words. And it’s often harder to let free will make the planets align, as opposed to trying to be Bruce Almighty, lol. But too many people take the easy path and short cuts, which is why there are so many fucked up relationships and dysfunctional families. In the long run, once positive attempts are made, free will is the best and most organic director of life.